Ending a relationship can be a real challenge. There are so many things to consider. If the relationship was abusive that is a bigger hurdle to overcome, but it can be done. Your new path will require new habits and a new outlook on life. If past issues are left to brew you will have unopened or unresolved baggage. That is no way to start on the path to newness. If you’re wondering how to unpack and get rid of your baggage, here are 5 ways for your consideration.
Accept That It Is Over
If you only want to live in denial, that will be an empty and lonely place. It’s best to accept the details, even the ugly ones and realize that this is your chance to begin again. No matter how long you’ve allowed the relationship to continue, now that’s it’s over, it is not the end of the world. If you don’t accept the new status of the relationship, you don’t leave room to allow yourself to grow. In the future, if you decide to have a new relationship the unfinished business of denial could ruin that.
Allowing yourself to be abused, and then moving on from that can leave a lot of guilt. This is not an emotion that you should carry. Some people decide when they start relationships that they will play a role. They turn your life into a fairy-tale romance complete with flowers and sweet nothings. Once you are hooked, the person changes roles, and by that time it has become harder to turn back. Forgive yourself. Move on.
Talk It Out
It can be hard to decide who you can trust to speak to about such a sensitive subject. Though it is a necessary action. Whether it is a professional or a great friend, talking will give you a chance to verbally expel your thoughts in a way, where they will no longer have to swirl aimlessly around in your head. There is nothing wrong with talking to a professional. They are trained and can offer tools to help you through this time in your life.
Take Care of Yourself
A lot of times while being in a relationship you could begin to neglect your own needs. Although it is important to consider the needs of your partner, you had a life before you met this person. It’s easy to lose yourself in your mate and if you’re not careful, what you will be left with are fragments of your former self. Take time to spend alone. Pamper yourself and get to know what is important to you. Don’t be afraid to hone skills you may have had or even learn new skills to better yourself. There’s only 1 you.
The sting of a breakup can last a while but moving on will free you. It may seem like the hardest feat of your life, but it can be done. Process every emotion in its time and allow yourself to feel. Attempting to cover up or put off your feelings by way of alcohol, other drugs or physical encounters only prolongs the process. When the high is gone and the orgasm has faded, you still have to deal with your emotions.